Married Couples

WHY COUPLE COUNSELLING IS IMPORTANT ?

Couple Counselling is very important to couples (married / pre-marital / divorce) as it addresses the following marital concerns: It helps couples to take out time from their busy lives and focus on themselves which is needed make the relationship status stronger. It will help couples to analyse and know their which behaviour patterns affecting or leading to conflict. And it will help to know realistic picture of who the partner actually is instead of what the other wants the partner to be. It can settle misunderstandings and avoid miscommunications. This is much easier as couples find common goals and respect each other’s motivations and desires. Effective communication is one of the most important aspects for any couple, however it is not uncommon for couples to reach an impasse and lose their ability to share their feelings and needs with one another. So it will help you to reach out how to communicate with your partner. And it will help you to know your partner before marriage and try to increases the compatibility between the each other.

PROBLEMS OR ISSUES BETWEEN COUPLES

• Communication Issues

The most common complaint among married or pre-martial couples is lack of communication and understanding. Many couples end up with problems rather than fixing it. In the beginning they agreed for commitments. when the partner gets to face new challenges, he/ she would busy facing it and no time for communication or to talk things sometimes other partner may be defending to it.

• Ignoring Boundaries

Every individual wants freedom or individuality. It’s not common to change your partner the way who want, overstepping boundaries can destroy mutual trust. The result is likely to be withdrawal from the relationship.

• Lack of Intimacy

There are many reasons couples lose interest in sex due to medical problems to emotional issues. Generally, intimacy problems trigger the most where it’s difficult to show your affection when you feel emotionally distant from your partner or when you won’t physically ready for it and it’s difficult to feel emotionally attached without experiencing intimacy and affection. During these emotional conflicts if other partner had urge of intimacy in relationship it will lead to aggression, dissatisfaction, and no emotional bonding with each other.

• Dominating and Ego

After fight one spouse doesn’t want to say sorry even, he/she knows it’s their mistakes they just don’t want ego to fall down in front of his/her partner this will lead to serious consequences later on. Dominating giving orders not being respectful and few more traits of dominations will lead conflicts.

• Conflicts regarding financial conditions

Disagreements about finances like one spouse may want to save while the other wants to spend. Disagreement about finances will lead to greater extend. To avoid these problems, it’s important to discuss and agree how to handle finances.

• Selfishness

If one spouse who doesn’t like her partner growth and one spouse concerned only for own sake and needs. And wont gave much time to partner.

• Value Differences

When a couple has value differences, such as religious/caste preferences, that can cause serious problems. They may have major disagreements about what religion/caste to teach their children. Other differences include how to follow, which traditions to follow definitions of right and wrong, or other ethical disputes. They haven’t brought up with the same values, morals, or goals and there will be many reasons to do debate about right and wrong. If a couple can’t learn to adjust to different values, they may have to face serious problems in their marriage.

• Different Life Stages Depending on Age Gap

Different age couple do have different life styles or ability of thinking doesn’t match the same. An older husband may not be interested in beginning a new family while the young bride is anxious to have a baby and take care of family, or he may be nearing retirement and want to slow down while she needs to stay active.

• Jealousy

Being jealous can turn a couple to feel irritated, especially if the jealous feelings are unrealistic. Jealous one can become overbearing, doubting and controlling or angry and rejecting. If you are feeling jealous even though for silly reasons or without anything done it will lead to conflict.

FCCS will help you out by resolving your issues

Conflict can happen when couple have different perspective or beliefs and not ready to understand others views or point that leads to clash. Sometimes conflict can occur when people misunderstand and not heard each other and jump to the wrong conclusion. Issues of conflict that are not resolved peacefully can lead to arguments and other stressful decisions. FCCS here to resolve those issues, as it aims to make you unite and companionate and see you with your partner living happy together.

• Effective Listening
• Question and Communicate
• Trust
• Work as a team
• Respect and Gratitude

BENEFITS OF COUPLE COUNSELLING FROM FCCS

Better Understand in Relationship

They listen to their partners, respect each other give time and tries to motivate each other if their opinion is different and they discuss with each other and come with one solution which are agreed by both.

See Other Perspectives

They try to think from their partner views which avoids arguments or conflicts and it will end up with good talk.

Effective Coping Mechanisms

Healthy coping mechanisms that will benefit both parties. This way new issues can be quickly handled before they grow larger and more damaging.

Restore Lost Trust

The relationship can truly grow and move forward-something very difficult to do without the help of a trained counsellor.

OUTCOMES

The FCCS process is, in many ways, is like process of knowing and an experiencing new. The individual can know or learn more about him/herself, but also acquires new skills. Sometimes, FCCS involves learning more about a particular condition (e.g., depression, anxiety, stress, conflicts) by which the person is affected, so that he/she can better understand options of counselling.

• As a result of FCCS, couples will be improved with communication and interpersonal skills.
• Greater understanding and trust within them.
• Ability to change self-defeating behaviours/habits.
• Better expression and management of emotions, including anger and relief from depression, anxiety or other conflicts and increases the compatibility of couples.
• Increased confidence and respect for each other.
• Recognition of distorted thinking from that jealous can be removed.